Empowering a Nation Through Sexy Television
Creating the fiction—HERE SHE COMES!
Shortly after I enrolled at the Somatica Institute for sex and relationship coaching, I discovered my actual purpose for being there was to write a television show that would bring Somatica’s teachings of love, connection and intimacy to living rooms across the country. I saw that this story is much bigger than cancer survivors. I want to address the whole nation.
Naturally, breast cancer made its way into the storyline. Deep in the drafts, it became Emma’s story. Emma is one half of the sex coaching duo, central to the plot. Rene is the other. Emma is written as a young survivor of breast cancer, experiencing what it is like to be a mother, a business woman and a sexual being post breast cancer. The parts about motherhood are very personal to me, and reflect… my own fears of recurrence. Although I know I am low risk. Like me, Emma is trying to keep everything together and be a super-woman, yet sometimes she’s really just fuckin’ afraid. For Emma, sex and sexual expression are her ways of dealing with her anxiety and her fears around death.
I hope Emma will be an example of a woman who is really empowered in her choices around her medical care, and really curious about the connection between her pleasure, her body and her recurrences. I hope it will be a unique, expanded and inspiring portrayal of a woman who faces this unfortunately very common problem, and redefines how one can move through it bravely.
“For Emma, sex and sexual expression are her ways of dealing with her anxiety and her fears around death.”
Still from “El Temblor” music video—the creative expression of my treatment.
During this time of uncertainty and solitude, what are your strategies for coping with anxiety and discomfort?
When I meet with other women who have been through cancer treatment—of any form—it’s like a club with a very specific membership. Like a card you can feel that warps our minds and makes us both stronger and more fragile moving forward.
Most of the time I’m so grateful for the journey. I feel that it’s made me more grateful for my body and a more capable human and mother. And then other days I’m really just fuckin’ scared and kinda pissed that I don’t feel my nipples anymore.
1 in 8 women are diagnosed with breast cancer in this country. We are starting to see themes of breast cancer in television—these stories are becoming more commonplace. But I think it is important to show different kinds of relating to the word cancer.
May Here She Comes inspire people to keep that (sexy) part of themselves alive. Pleasure can heal. You are not off limits, even when scarred, even when “sick.” It was important for my mental health and my sanity that life went on after this experience.